The information provided below is general information only. It does not replace advice and support from a domestic violence specialist.
Its most helpful to get advice that is specific for your situation. The information below will not be suitable for everyone staying in a relationship. You always deserve to be safe, so if you chose to stay in your relationship, think about what you can do to improve your safety, particularly when your partner’s abuse gets worse, or you feel their behaviour is escalating.
Trust Safe & Supportive People
Think about letting safe and supportive people know about the abuse. This could be your neighbours, family, friends, colleagues. You can let them know how they can help you and what your safety plan is if your partner’s abuse escalates.
Use Code Words
Think about having code words with trusted people so they know you need help or for them to come over to your house. For example, you could text them a special word or phrase that will prompt them to come over or call for help.
Keep important items accessible
Keep essential items like keys, money, ID, and important documents somewhere accessible where you can get to them quickly. If safe to do so, consider keeping copies of important documents with a family member or trusted friend or you can upload your documents to your my Gov account, or even just screenshot all documents that are important.
Have a quick exit plan
Think about how you could exit your home quickly. Which doors or windows could you use to get out of the house in an emergency and where could you go to be safe?
It is important to remember that abuse and violence is never your fault. The only person who can stop the violence and abuse, is the person choosing to use this behaviour. For many survivors, leaving the relationship may not be possible at the time or something you want to do.
Remember you are not alone, you can still receive support form a Domestic Violence Specialist if you decide to stay.